In terms of our infertility journey, we are working towards taking action, but are basically nowhere at this point, waiting for 2020 to get its shit together before we make any solid moves. I feel panicked about the time passing because the process can take a while. 31-year old eggs are theoretically better than 32-year old eggs, though my oncologist has told me to chill out about that specific worry.
So, what do we know?
We know that we have made a decision to move forward with IVF sooner rather than later (as soon as we have the finances figured out) just to check that off our list and clear the hurdle. Then we’ll turn our attention to the surrogacy question. In the mean time, we are also researching our options for adoption.
We know that we are feeling encouraged by my oncologist and her optimism about the low probability of the cancer returning.
We know Charlotte is growing up way too fast and challenges us to be the best parents we can every single day. She makes me want to be a better person. And the kid has never been funnier.
Mostly we know that we can get through this challenging time. This diagnosis was the most challenging thing I’ve ever experienced. The times we are living in right now are scary and uncertain, but we are just taking it one step at a time. We are not in any hurry to get back out there right now – I have asthma and had lung surgery many years ago, so breathing is sometimes difficult on a good day and I’m not super anxious to increase our exposure to this virus. We have really missed our families – it’s been an emotional time to be physically distant from them. For now, we’re just trying to do the next right thing for our family.
Taking life one step at a time seems difficult right now – there are major things happening all around us, all over the country, all over the world. Sometimes our issues seem so trivial in comparison. It’s been a really hard year for a lot of people. I get anxious about where we go from here and how long it might take us to get there. But I’m also optimistic. I look back at some of the challenges we have overcome and think “we can do this – we can figure this out and we’ll be a better family for it in the end”. Maybe it’s naive, but I like to think the same about people – we can do this together, one step at a time, and we’ll be better for it in the end.
Life One Step At A Time 